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The grocery store worker that gave me hope

8/1/2018

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​Today I was checking out at my local grocery store. The young man bagging my groceries had special needs. He was very social with excellent eye contact as he asked me if I had any fun plans for the weekend.

I smiled and said, “Yes. It should be a nice weekend to grill out.”

I quickly asked him, “How about you? Do you have any plans?”

He simply and politely said, “I plan to relax at home.”

​It was a perfect exchange of pleasantries from one to another. As he bagged the rest of my grocery haul, he looked over at a co-worker and asked if she was done for the day, and she said, “No. I’m just on lunch if you wanna join me after you finish here.”  

I felt very happy for the young man. He has his place in the workforce, earns a paycheck, contributes to society, and clearly has no problems with socializing. As I finished my payment, smiled goodbye, and rolled out my grocery cart to my car, I felt a huge wave of sadness come over me. By the time I got to my minivan, my emotions were too much to contain. I placed two bags on the car seat and hid my face inside as I wept behind my large black sunglasses. I was sad for my teenage daughter. She lives with a severe form of epilepsy and autism. Although she has these challenges, she still perseveres in her daily life, and her social spirit is a strong force.  Sometimes she is the queen bee of socializing, with appropriate conversations and happiness all around. However, she has an unpredictable side to her that consists of inappropriate behavior. Sometimes we cannot take her in public for the safety of herself and others. 

As I cried in my minivan, I sobbed at the future for her. Where will she fit in? What will her days look like post-high school graduation? How will an employer understand if she cannot come to work because she is having a seizure cluster? What employer will see her as a sweet human being and not someone with disabilities?

Today was one of those days where the future was too much for me to think about. Moving forward, I need to be her strongest advocate. Look for the best work programs, so she has a chance to be part of society. I wish for her to not only take up space in the workplace, but to be a positive contributor to an organization that will help her have a good quality of life. Even though I am not sure of what that will look like, I will figure it out in the near future. 
5 Comments
Ms Sheila
8/7/2018 09:34:53 pm

You are a good mom. That comes natural to you, so admirable.

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Joni Brown
8/8/2018 12:28:25 pm

Thank you Ms. Sheila.

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Mere
1/17/2019 04:48:00 pm

Beautiful writing about your encounter at the grocery store with this individual with special needs. I can totally relate to the apprehension towards the future of a child with special needs. I’ve seen more and more places hosting individuals with special needs to work at their organizations.

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Ann Mitchell link
7/11/2019 11:47:45 am

Such an amazing story. I can relate to your dreams and aspirations for your daughter. As a parent myself with a child who struggles with mental health issues (the hidden disability). It is hard now that she is an adult. Some days are truly easier than others.

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Aunt Pat
12/25/2019 10:13:40 am

Such a sweet daughter, but what a MOM!!! Your insight and understanding and compassion are something to behold. Not just of your daughter but also of all others around you. You are a special person and to share all with others is so commendable. You are a strong and smart woman. Keep writing and so worth reading. Thank You.

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